Chocolate Milk Cafe NY/NJ Chapter – Newark Location

Our first meeting is finally here!

We will be meeting

every third Wednesday

from

11:00am – 12:30pm

at the

Shani Baraka Women’s Resource Center

300 Clinton Ave, Newark, NJ

Our first meeting is on February 21st.

Our topic will be “Say it Loud, I Breastfeed & I’m Proud”. We will be celebrating breastfeeding in the black community.

If you would like to join us, or support us in other ways, email chocolatemilkcafenynj@gmail.com

Our Newark Location Certified Chocolate Milk Cafe Facilitators; Takisha Miller & LaShanda Dandrich, with Hakima Payne of Uzazi Village; founder and trainer or Chocolate Milk Cafe.

MORE Podcasts

Back in April (2017) I posted a list of podcasts that I enjoyed and wanted to share. One of my friends, and members of our community sent me a message with a list of podcasts she was in to at the time. It’s taking me quite some time to accumulate the list she sent me and the list I have of podcasts suggestions for kids. So, I decided to just go ahead and get what I do have out. For the ones that I haven’t gotten to yet, I just thought I would at least provide you with links to some of the ones that my friend shared.

Podcasts in Color

Podcast Directory

I found this because one of the Podcasts I started listening to mentioned it. I also found quite a few new ones that I will add to a new post.


Another Round

Description: Heben Nigatu and Tracy Clayton cover everything from race, gender and pop culture to squirrels, mangoes, and bad jokes, all in one boozy show.

My Take: I am really enjoying this podcast! Heben and Tracy are really fun to listen to. And their topics are really interesting.

Note: Another Round is leaving the BuzzFeed family and it currently on a hiatus. Listen to their past episodes to fall in love with these two.

Spare the Rock, Spoil the Child

Description: music that kids will love and parents won’t hate

My Take: I attempted to listen to this, but I don’t really listen to much rock. My kids weren’t in the car at the time, so I can try to share it with them. (I may have to add this to the kid’s podcast suggestions)

Black Girl Podcast

Description: The Black Girl Podcast is a new audio series created by Scottie Beam (@scottiebeam on twitter/IG), Gia Peppers (@giapeppers), Sapphira (@sapphiraem), Bex (@blvckdaria), and Alysha P (@AlyshaP819/@AlyshaP). After the five media phenoms met and became friends at hip hop’s most iconic station, Hot 97, they decided to make their hilarious conversations about life issues, sisterhood, pop culture, love, growth, and the pursuit of their dreams to the public. Listen every week as their differing opinions and life experiences lead them to understand themselves, and the world around them, a little bit better. Hopefully, you’ll laugh, argue, and learn something about yourselves, too. Follow us on Twitter and IG @blackgirlpod. Photo Credit: @elliott_ashby @freshoutthe80s

My Take: I am trying to still gauge my feelings for this podcast. I wasn’t a big fan of their commentary on the Aziz Ansari consent discussion. On the other hand, I do like the idea of so many black women voices. I will try to give it a bit more time.

Myths and Legends

Description: Jason Weiser tells stories from myths, legends, and folklore that have shaped cultures throughout history. Some, like the stories of Aladdin, King Arthur, and Hercules are stories you think you know, but with surprising origins. Others are stories you might not have heard, but really should. All the stories are sourced from world folklore, but retold for modern ears.

My Take: I haven’t listened to this one yet. But, I think my kids may enjoy this. (Not really sure if this one is for kids or adults.)

Also Known As

Description: Musings on life, culture, family, with a little bit of wine and a sprinkle of black Girl magic.

My Take: I’m going to have to check this one out soon.

Additional Suggestions

Another Word for Lesbian

Another Word for Lesbian is a podcast featuring writers Torrie & Erika, 2 queer and lesbian, black, carefree besties laughing in New York City. This bi-weekly podcast is where we talk black queer issues, writing life, pop culture, and ridiculousness.

Black Girls Talking

Black Girls Talking is a podcast wherein 4 black girls discuss pop culture, Beyonce, & the pursuit of the perfect body oil

Read-Aloud Revival

The Read-Aloud Revival Podcast is the place to get the inspiration and resources you need to read aloud to your kids. Get motivated and encouraged to build your family culture around books! The podcast is a collection of inspiring and informative interviews to help parents, homeschoolers, and teachers make reading aloud a central part of family life. Reading aloud is more than just a literary education- it’s a framework for family culture.

Down for Whatever

Down for Whatever is a sexuality podcast featuring sex-positive interviews with real people about their real sexual experiences. With candor and humor, Myisha helps to demystify modern sexual dilemmas by highlighting the experiences and expertise of her guests who represent a wide spectrum of sexual identities, orientations and backgrounds. For more information, visit myishabattle.com.


With That Being Said

With That Being Said is a long conversation between friends, edited into weekly episodes that give you 2 therapists’ take on life, love, and everything in between. Hosted by Esther Boykin, LMFT and Erica Turner, MS, this podcast is dedicated to giving you fun, smart, relatable, interesting, honest & actionable insights on the things that matter most in this life. Every episode is designed to help you learn a little more about living a happier life and having healthier relationships. Most episodes are not about therapy but Esther and Erica always bring a fresh and honest perspective on therapists’ really think about off the clock. Esther and Erica hope that this peek inside the conversations between therapists will shift the perception of therapy and therapists as something to be secretive about to something totally worth sharing. The show features guest experts and lots of laughter because the best conversations are the one’s we have with our friends. So with that being said, isn’t it time for you to join the conversation?


Introverted Black Girl Podcasts

The Introverted Black Girl podcast documents the thoughts and experiences of a young introverted black girl living in NYC. In a world full of extroverts and introverts, the introverted black girl some how has become the most scrutinized of them all. She must some how find her way to fit in. Will this introverted black girl find her way to success in the city of big dreams? Follow the journey of the introverted black girl as she unleashes the stories and thoughts of her day to day experiences through her podcast.

Workshop – Family Planning

The final workshop of our series was led by Stephanie of Masakhane. Unfortunately, we didn’t have many attendees, but those of us that were present were super interested in her learning tools and the information she had to offer. I’m definitely hoping to connect with Stephanie in the future.

Contact us if you would like to connect with us for further workshops!

familiesforequity@gmail.com

Community Exchange 2017 – “Representation Matters”

 

We had our second annual Black Breastfeeding Event. This year’s national theme was: #betonblack

We ended up with 3 nursing moms and some of their supportive family members. Although it was a small turn out, I really enjoyed our chats and really getting to know those who attend our events.

We also had Monique from Brown Skin Green Beauty join us. She opened our eyes to the concept of using green makeup to help with healing your skin. She also made some great points about how we care for our body. We can’t wait for her to join us again!

 

Additional Images

 

We really enjoyed giving away some fun items. We still have plans to give away any leftover items, once we are done with our last workshop. Stay tuned on our Facebook and Instagram pages for further details.

 

Workshop – Breastfeeding for Women of Color

Our last workshop seemed to just fly by. We had the pleasure of meeting Vickie Nizin; an IBCLC who works at the WIC office in East Orange, NJ. She showed us a great video of fellow breastfeeding moms of color. We also sat around chatting about our experiences and went off on a tangent about our children’s names and meanings. It felt really great to connect with other families.

Our next workshop is (tomorrow) Thursday, August 31st, Family Planning.

Workshop – Postpartum Care

This week’s workshop was led by myself, Takisha. I started out excited because I love sharing our 4th Trimester Care kits with others. The event started off slow, but ended on a great note! I have to admit that I was a bit overwhelmed at some point because there was so much information to share and so many questions to answer. But, we got through it and I think I managed to not overwhelm the group with too much information. Although, I’m just realizing that we didn’t really get a chance to introduce ourselves, lol.

Anyway, this event was extremely special to me because we are gearing up to offer these workshops to others and it felt good to get over this hurdle of our first. Moving forward we will definitely spread them out instead of having so many things to make in one session, head on over to our INFOShops page to learn more.

Today, we talked about the word Postpartum and the precise meaning. We briefly discussed the postpartum period and touched on what the fourth trimester is. I think we may need to revisit all of this information moving forward.

I shared with the group what is in our 4th Trimester Care package and went through what is in everything.

We discussed our nourishing tea, healing salve, and energy bites. We were able to sample the tea and actually make the bites. We didn’t end up making the other 2, but I did walk some through making the salve. Hopefully, we will be able to make it another time.

Images from our session:

(I have to work on my facial expressions, lol)

Resources

Organicfacts.net

Mountainroseherbs.com

Herbal-supplement-resource.com

WellnessMama.com

 

Foraging & Feasting: A Field Guide and Wild Food Cookbook by Dina Falconi; illustrated by Wendy Hollender

I found some of these images inspiring during my research, but I ended up not using any in the handouts

 

Rosemary Gladstar’s Medicinal Herbs: A Beginner’s Guide

This is a great beginner guide to learning about herbs and growing them

 

 

Rosemary Gladstar’s Herbal Recipes for Vibrant Health

This is great for recipes and getting more involved in herbal remedies

 

 

Alchemy of Herbs by Rosalee de la Foret

This is the book I mentioned that is next on my list to get

 

 

 

A Kid’s Herb Book: For Children of All Ages by Lesley Tierra

This book was a great recommendation from a friend in introducing our kid’s to herbs. We are going to be focusing on this more this fall in our family. We may be able to do some group activities.

 

I also mentioned:

Herb Fairies   and Wildcraft from LearningHerbs.com during our session

(Links are not affiliate links, we do not make any money off of your purchases. Make sure you shop around for the best deals.)

 

See you next Thursday, August 24th, Breastfeeding for Women of Color. 

Workshop – Nutrition & Kemetic Yoga

One more workshop down! This one was led by Jillian, who just became certified in Kemetic Yoga.

Kemetic Yoga is the ancient Egyptian system of Yoga enlightenment based upon the practices of physical movements combined with controlled deep breathing and meditation.

A quick video:

Brief Kemetic Yoga session

Images from our session

As for nutrition, we discussed the connection between eating well, breastfeeding, and yoga.

 

See you next Thursday, August 17th, Postpartum Care. We’re going to be showing attendees how to make some of the items in our 4th Trimester Care packages. We would love to have a few more people show up!

Workshop – Babywearing and Skin to Skin

We had our first workshop for our month of Breastfeeding Awareness informative workshops; leading up to Black Breastfeeding Week.

We had a small crowd, but we were still able to supply a lot of information and help spread the love of Babywearing to fellow parents.

Diamond, a Wrapsody Ambassador was able to demo a ringsling for our attendees.

Our attendees seemed to enjoy trying out our carriers. Not every little one was as eager during the process.

Additional images

These images were during our presentation where I showed off the carriers in our beginning Learning Library. Which mostly consist of my own carriers. We did receive 2 donations from Kat Chaffin. I will create a post with an inventory of the carriers in our library.

 

What we discussed:

Our handout covered introductory information on what babywearing is and the different types of carriers available. We also covered Babywearing International’s ABCs of Babywearing Safety.

If you would like to learn more about Skin to Skin care or Kangaroo Care, Kangaroo Mother Care is a great place to start.

 

We look forward to seeing you at our next event on Thursday, August 10th Nutrition & Kemetic YOGA.

Breastfeeding Awareness!

August is Breastfeeding Awareness Month! And leading up to Black Breastfeeding Week (last week in August), we have organized informational workshops for EVERY Thursday this month!!!

August is Breastfeeding Awareness Month! And leading up to Black Breastfeeding Week (last week in August), we have organized informational workshops for EVERY Thursday this month!!!

We will also have a park meetup back at Watsessing Park (Bloomfield side) just like last year! August 26th!

We would LOVE to see you at all or at least one of these events!!

3rd – Babywearing & Skin to Skin* –
https://www.facebook.com/events/126057417912306/

Babywearing is a term used to describe carrying your child, using a piece of fabric. This practice has been utilized for centuries among many different cultures across the globe. Babywearing is also a useful aid when breastfeeding or providing skin to skin care.

led by: Takisha Miller of Families for Equity


10th – Nutrition & Kemetic YOGA* –https://www.facebook.com/events/2015348252035254/

Kemetic Yoga and the Yoga Skills Method both have origins in Ancient Egypt. By combining movement with breath, this style of yoga allows participants to tap into their internal energy creating balance and focus while promoting health. Benefits of Kemetic Yoga include stress management, self control and wellness to name a few. This session will give parents a few breathing techniques and movements to help manage stress. Techniques that are great for the entire families.

led by Jillian Faulks-Majuta


17th – Postpartum Care* –https://www.facebook.com/events/2002336743386183/

Postpartum care focuses on the care of the parent after the birth of the child. There are great benefits in focusing on the 4th trimester. The 4th Trimester is a term describing the first 3 months of your baby’s life where establishing that initial breastfeeding relationship is the most crucial. While caring for your newborn, it can become difficult to care for yourself. Join Takisha Miller as she shows you how to make some of the items found in Families for Equity’s 4th Trimester Care kit that will help you push through those first 12 weeks. These items are simple enough to do on your own or to delegate to someone on your support team. Attendees will be able to go home with plenty of samples.

led by Takisha Miller of Families for Equity


24th – Breastfeeding for Women of Color* –https://www.facebook.com/events/342389759527708/

led by Vicki Nizen of WIC in EO

 

 

 

 

 

26th – Community Exchange –https://www.facebook.com/events/244913045997168/

“Representation Matters”
A Community Exchange

This year’s National theme is: Bet on Black
https://www.facebook.com/BlackBreastfeedingWeek/

Black Breastfeeding Week is normally celebrated during the last week of Breastfeeding Awareness Month (August). Join us as we celebrate and spread the word about breastfeeding within the black community.

Meet us in Watsessing Park, just like last year! Bring your questions and support! And a picnic blanket.

We will meet in the section of the park on Bloomfield Ave & Conger St.
We will be highlighting the support networks in our community!
Feel free to contact us, if you’re interested in addressing our attendees. (familiesforequity@gmail.com)


31st – Family Planning* –https://www.facebook.com/events/1908595926081731/

This workshop will cover a variety of sexuality topics. Do you have questions about birth control? Healthy and unhealthy relationships? Talking to your kids about consent and sexuality? Periods? Healthy sexual development? We have (most of) the answers!

led by Stephanie of Masakhane

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*This event is organized by The Essex County Improving Pregnancy Outcomes Project of the Statewide Parent Advocacy Network, the VNA Health Group, and Families for Equity in support of celebrating Black Breastfeeding Week.

 

If you would like to RSVP to these events, you are welcome to email us at familiesforequity@gmail.com

The Orange Rhino Challenge – Alternative Education Options RECAP

Thanks to a slight oversight on my part, our second public meeting didn’t go as planned. Our goal was to talk about alternative options that are available outside of public school or pretty much education as we know it. However, I had the time listed as 10:30am (my initial intended time), when the library doesn’t open until 1:00pm on Wednesdays. So, people showed up, but at the wrong time. And of course,  very few planned to return. 

We did end up having a decent discussion among those who attended. Three families in total. However, we are all homeschooling, so we just discussed what led us to homeschooling and a little about our strategies. 

As our discussion progressed, some of our parenting challenges came up. This led to the topic of discipline, mostly yelling. So, naturally, the topic of The Orange Rhino Challenge came up. The idea was that we could attempt this challenge as a group and support one another along the way. 

So, here’s the setup:

Do you find yourself yelling more often than you thought you would after becoming a parent? Do you wish your kids would just stop driving you crazy and just listen? Are you a bit more self conscious about the noises coming from your windows, now that it’s summer and all the windows are open? Have you considered The Orange Rhino Challenge?

Join us for 31 days, the whole month of July, as we take on The Orange Rhino Challenge. This event will take place in our closed Facebook group, but if you are interested in joining us, you are welcome to communicate with us on our website, via email, or on our public Facebook page

Of course you are also welcome to become a member of our community. Membership is free, but all are expected to respect our community needs; to maintain a safe space for people of color. Failure to honor this space will result in removal. (The link provided is to become a member online, but you can also request membership to the Facebook group; unfamiliar names/profiles will be screened)

Our next public event for July will focus on our parenting style and how the way we were raised shapes our parenting decisions.  We’re still looking for a location, though.